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Writer's pictureTamra Miller-Spence

How to Support a Loved One with Mental Health Issues



Supporting a loved one struggling with mental health issues can be a challenging and emotional journey. You may feel unsure about what to say or do, worried about making things worse, or even overwhelmed by the responsibility. However, your support can make a significant difference in their journey toward healing. Here are some practical ways to support someone with mental health challenges, along with tips on what to say, what to avoid, and how to care for yourself in the process.


1. Educate Yourself About Mental Health

One of the most supportive things you can do is to learn about the mental health condition your loved one is facing. Understanding symptoms, triggers, and common treatments can help you respond with empathy and avoid misconceptions. Mental health issues like depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or PTSD all manifest differently, and knowing the basics can guide your approach.

  • Key Tip:Reliable resources include mental health organizations such as the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) or the American Psychological Association (APA), which provide valuable information on various conditions.

2. Listen Without Judgment

Sometimes, the best support you can offer is a listening ear. Let your loved one talk about their feelings without interrupting, judging, or offering unsolicited advice. Validate their experiences by acknowledging their pain, even if you don’t fully understand what they are going through.

  • What to Say:

    • "I'm here for you, and I’m willing to listen whenever you want to talk."

    • "I may not understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help."

  • What to Avoid:

    • "Snap out of it."

    • "Everyone feels this way sometimes; it’s not a big deal."

3. Offer Practical Support

Mental health issues can make daily tasks feel overwhelming. Offer to help with small, practical things like cooking a meal, running errands, or accompanying them to appointments. Sometimes these gestures can alleviate stress and provide a sense of stability.

  • Examples of Practical Help:

    • Offering to drive them to a therapy session.

    • Helping with household chores if they’re feeling too overwhelmed.

4. Encourage Professional Help Without Pushing

While your support is valuable, it’s important to recognize that you’re not a therapist. Encourage your loved one to seek professional help if they haven’t already, but be gentle in your approach. Therapy, medication, or other treatments might be intimidating or stigmatized for them.

  • What to Say:

    • "Have you thought about talking to someone who can help you more than I can?"

    • "I’m happy to help you find a therapist or go with you if that makes it easier."

  • What to Avoid:

    • "You just need to see a therapist."

    • "Medication is the only way to get better."

5. Be Patient and Respect Their Pace

Healing is not linear, and your loved one may have good days and bad days. Be patient and respect their journey without pushing them to "get better" on your timeline. Celebrate their small victories, and be a steady presence, even when things seem slow or stagnant.

  • Key Tip:Remember that offering consistent support, even when progress feels slow, is crucial. Reassure them that it’s okay to move at their own pace.

6. Set Boundaries to Protect Your Own Mental Health

Supporting someone with mental health challenges can be emotionally taxing, so it’s important to set boundaries to protect your well-being. Make time for your own self-care and recognize when you need to take a step back to recharge. You cannot pour from an empty cup.

  • What to Do:

    • Schedule regular self-care activities, like exercise, hobbies, or time with friends.

    • Consider seeking your own therapy to process your emotions and gain additional coping tools.

7. Stay Connected and Check-In Regularly

Regular check-ins, whether through a text, call, or in person, remind your loved one that they are not alone. Even a simple “thinking of you” message can brighten their day and reinforce your support.

  • What to Say:

    • "Just checking in to see how you’re doing today."

    • "I’m here if you want to chat or just need some company."


Supporting a loved one with mental health issues requires empathy, patience, and sometimes, a willingness to seek support for yourself. While you may not have all the answers, your presence and compassion can be a powerful force in their journey toward healing. Remember, you don’t have to fix everything—just being there is often enough.

If you or your loved one are in crisis, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help or call a mental health hotline for immediate support.



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